Why I Won’t See Me Before You

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A few months ago, I had posted a review on my blog of Me Before You by JoJo Moyes. If you read that post, and I lead you to read the book, I am truly sorry. I am sorry I subjected you to the story and the ending. I’m sorry that I told you to read a book that I would never suggest anyone read anymore. 

I have since deleted that post on my blog, and it will remain in my deleted bin for the rest of eternity. 

You see, the longer I’m away from reading the book, the more ashamed I am that I ever liked it in the first place. Let’s start at the beginning. I bought the book because everyone was ranting and raving about it. It was getting GREAT reviews on Goodreads and Amazon, and I thought, “heck, I need a good book to read”. I downloaded it on my Kindle and I was sucked in from the very first page. 

JoJo Moyes can write the crap out of a book. There’s no denying that. She knew how to make characters that captivated me in a way that I couldn’t have put the book down even if I had wanted to – or knew what was going to happen at the end. She’s just that good. 

I saw the trailer for the movie, too, and it looks SO good. I’m not going to lie. I mean, Hollywood is good at making a trailer that draws you in from the very first second and makes you say, “yes, I gotta see that!”. 


I’m going to give spoilers below. If you haven’t read the book and still wish to – or if you really, really want to see the movie and haven’t yet, and are going to, don’t read further.

 Me Before You is about Will Traynor – a quadriplegic. He was hurt in an accident years before and lost the use of his entire body from his neck down. He feels like he’s not able to do what he wants, so he wants to commit the death with dignity act. Will promises his parents six months longer. They hire Louisa Clarke as his caregiver.

She and Will begin a long, treacherous road. She is his caregiver for six months. They fall in love. You think, maybe, just maybe, he won’t go through with it. But he feels, because he’s disabled, that his life is not worth living.

They, his family and Louisa, although not thrilled with the idea of him doing this, drive him to the clinic to do this horrible thing. This “death with dignity”. I, personally, hate calling it that. Is it really dignified when you’re committing suicide because you feel like it’s easier than living your life?

I’m a firm believer in us not knowing the end of our days. I’m a firm believer in that miracles happen and we never know when someone will be miraculously healed. I’ve watched my mom’s best friend, Sue, battle cancer until it took her life back in 2010. She fought the fight until the end and never once would have even CONSIDERED killing herself instead of fighting. 

Being disabled – being sick – does not constitute this so called death with dignity. It doesn’t make it right. When I was younger, I read Joni by Joni Eareckson Tada. It didn’t hit me until recently how truly remarkable she really is.

She, too, is a quadriplegic. She, too, can’t feel anything below her neck. But she chose joy. She chose to LIVE BOLDLY. She chose to LIVE. 


So today, just like the book – and movie – Me Before You says, Live Boldly. Live each day to it’s fullest, because we DON’T know when it’s going to be our last. Will Traynor chose to die instead of seeing what his future could have held. He chose to leave the people he loved to mourn his loss. 

So, to all you out there who are thinking about going to see the movie – please don’t. Please warn your friends that this movie is about suicide. Please warn those who are thinking they’re going to see a really sweet chick flick, and don’t know what they’re getting themselves in for. Please. 

And today: Live Boldly. Just Live.