When There’s No More Butterflies

Let me tell you a little story: when I was younger, I couldn’t wait to be in a relationship. I wanted the butterflies. I wanted the feeling of being in love. I wanted the giddiness of being with a man that I wanted to spend my life with. 

When I met my boyfriend…I had all that. In fact, it was great. Relationships start out so strong in that “lovey dovey” stage, so to speak. The days are easy – as long as you see each other. As long as you hold hands. As long as you are together 100% of the time. Life is just AMAZING. 

And then reality sets in…

Life comes in the way. Things kind-of just settle. You may no longer feel the butterflies or giddiness the minute you see him. You may not go out on as many exciting dates anymore. 

This…is love. 

Love is when you might not feel giddy when seeing him, but you feel SAFE. Love is when you’re happy cleaning together, doing dishes together, making dinner together. Love is when you’re happy sitting on the couch watching a movie on TV instead of going to the theater to see a movie. 

Love isn’t fancy dates or butterflies.

Love is solid. Love is helping each other with every little tiny thing – even if it might not be considered fun. 

Love isn’t texting every second of every day.

Love is saying good morning, how are you, and I’ll see you after work. 

Love is being happy with the mundane.

Because let’s be honest…your relationship isn’t always going to be roses and happiness, and excitement. Things will happen that you don’t expect – and life will get in the way.

Love is making it through those and coming out stronger. 

Butterflies will go away…but if it’s real, the love WON’T go away. 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Let me end this post by saying that sometimes you WILL still feel those butterflies. Your boyfriend or husband will do something, look at you a specific way and they’ll pool in your stomach one more time, and it’s great! But you know what else is great? Feeling love without those butterflies. <3