I’m going to come right out and tell you something about myself that people who really know me should already know:
I’m 21, and I’ve been single my entire life.
Just typing it out, I feel kinda silly, and embarrassed. Like, that makes me weird, or like I’m stupid. And I don’t know why that is. Why is our culture a place where it’s NOT okay to be single until you find the right person?
Why does our culture lead us to believe that you have to get a significant other when you’re so young that you don’t even know how to drive yet?
Why does our culture pressure us into doing things that we don’t even really want to do, yet it seems good because everyone else is doing it?
Being single is NOT a bad thing. It’s a time to settle yourself in a job, and figure out who you’re going to be.
The time I’ve spend as a single person has taught me SO much. It’s taught me that, despite the fact that I’m not a feminist in every sense of the word, I don’t need a man to define me.
It’s taught me that I can be strong and independent.
It’s taught me that God can be the main person in my life – and HOW to put him there so when I do get a boyfriend/fiance/husband, I know how to put God first.
That doesn’t mean it’s easy. In fact, I spend a lot of my time wondering when God is finally going to bring me the man I’m supposed to spend the rest of my life with. I wonder if I’ll find him before I’m 22.
Or before I’m 23.
I wonder if I’ll be married before I’m 30, because that’s a big thing for me.
When I was 18 and trying to figure out what I wanted to do with the rest of my life, my decision hinged on the fact that I wanted to spend my future as a wife and mother.
And so when things weren’t going my way in the man department, I thought I was failing in some way at being what I truly thought my life was meant to be.
God knows I’m impatient. He does that better than I do. So when I asked for patience when it came to waiting for my future spouse, I think He took it very literally.
And so now, I wait. I wait until God decides to open up doors to things I can’t even imagine.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.