You hear the phrase all the time, especially when a girl says that she’s been broken up with, or that she broke up with a guy.
But do we take the time to actually think about it?
I hate the saying. It makes me cringe every time I hear it. Saying there are plenty of fish in the sea is like saying there are a million guys in the world, and you’ve gotta date some bad ones so that you can get to a good one.
I don’t believe that.
As a girl who has never dated – and doesn’t plan to until I’m ready and know the right guy has come into my life – this whole “plenty of fish in the sea” thing makes me mad.
The last thing us girls need to know is that there are an overabundance of guys in the world that we could potentially date. All we need to know is that we should be saving ourselves for the one guy that God has made especially for us!
When I was younger, I started reading I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris. While I didn’t finish the book – I did get through a part of it. And the first part was all I had to read. Josh uses the illustration of a man on his wedding day – getting married to the love of his life. But, right before he says his vows, all the past girls he’s dated walk into the room and mention how he gave a little piece of his heart to them.
I never want to think that I couldn’t give my whole heart to the man that I’m going to marry. While I know this isn’t always possible – everyone makes mistakes – I think that we need to make it a point to not give our hearts to five different guys just to “find the right one”.
1 Corinthians 13:4–8a
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails …
As someone who hopes – and prays – for my future husband every day, I know that he’s out there. I know that God wants me to save my heart for the man I’m to marry.
I know that God wants me to take this time – this single time – to spend time with Him. To get to know God better. To get completely lost in him.
God makes us single for us a reason – not so that we can date different guys – and meet all the fishes in the sea. He doesn’t want us to waste our times on guys that don’t want to spend their lives with us. He doesn’t want us to waste our time on guys that have no intention of being with us for more than a few months.
And let me just tell you . . . He especially doesn’t want you to spend this time WITHOUT him. He wants you to take this time – this SINGLE time – to spend with him.
So…no, there are not plenty of fish in the sea. There is one fish in the sea – the one you’re supposed to marry. Remember that when you’re thinking of the PLENTY in the sea.
There’s only one that you get to spend the rest of your life with.
Only one that you get to love for the rest of your life.
Only ONE that God has planned for you – especially for you.