Lies Given to 20-somethings


I’ve seen a lot of blog and Facebook posts lately that are talking about people in their twenties being in the prime of their life, and this is when they should be “living” – or something along those lines.

While I know, as someone who turned 20 last November, that being 20 isn’t as weird as I thought it would be. There is one good thing about it: I am no longer considered as being one of those annoying teenagers anymore.

BUT, there are things that are not so great about in your 20s, and a lot of those are put into the posts that I’ve been seeing on Facebook.

These are posts that say things like:

  • Your 20s are when you can get hungover and not have consequences because you bounce back faster.. 
  • You’re going to be broke for a very long time.
  • The first time you fall in love probably won’t be the last. There are different kinds of love and people that will come into your life for different reasons.
  • You’re not going to get a job without a college degree, so go to college. 
  • Have fun! This is the time when you can do so without having to worry about a family. 

The idea that this is how you are going to spend your 20s is almost preposterous. It’s like saying we have a free ride to do whatever we want because we know longer have to live under our parents roof and can “fend for ourselves”. 

There is so much that we SHOULD be doing in our 20s. If you want to go to college, go to college. But that’s not your only option. You can go get a job and make and save money, all while living under the same roof at your parents until you find something that makes you enough money to move out.

College is NOT the answer to your problems – going to college and getting a degree is not going to just get you a job magically when you graduate.

If you want a good job, you have to work at it. 

You can’t just spend your early 20s messing around, partying and doing whatever you think is “fun”. Being an adult can be fun, but it isn’t always. You have to work, earn and save money, and then have the fun afterwards. Or, you have to go to college, get an education and not waste it by partying all the time.

The second point I posted really hit me. I am 20, living at home with a job and I have been saving money since I got a job 3-1/2 years ago. So I am anything but broke. I hate when people say that 20-somethings are going to be poor and won’t have enough money to live off of. While I do live at home, and don’t make an insane amount of money, I could move out if I wanted to. 

The third point: I hate when this comes up. “The first time you fall in love with probably not be the last”. That’s all fine and dandy, but just because you can date doesn’t mean you have to. I don’t want to be one of those people that falls in love over and over and gives part of my heart to a guy I barely know. Seriously, we need to be careful who we’re spending our time with and falling for.

Is this a person you could see yourself marrying in the future, or is it just a fling? If it’s just a fling – and you don’t think you could marry them,it’s probably a good time to walk away.

Don’t just date to date. 

So, while your 20s can be the best years of your life here on earth, remember that you need to think about the consequences that could come with them. Are you going to look back in ten years and wonder why you did these things? If so, stop. If you think you’ll look back and be proud of what you did, you’re most likely doing something right.

There’s a difference between wasting your 20s and using them to become a better person.

Remember: you’re only in your 20s for ten years. Do you waste them by partying and spending time dating different people? Or do you value them by getting a job or an education, and falling for the one person you’ll spend the rest of your life with? 

You decide: but I choose the second option. 

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