How Being Obsessed With Something Changed My Life

Once upon a time, there was a girl named Ashley and she was 13 in 2007. Also in 2007, there came about a little band of brother named the Jonas Brothers. Ashley discovered the Jonas Brothers and then the rest of that you can probably figure out on your own.

I am Ashley, and this is my story of obsession and what I learned from it.


The boys above came into the Disney scene in 2007 and somehow I decided they were going to be my favorite band. Not only were they singers, but they weren’t half bad to look at. They were “funny” AND not to mention the fact that their dad was a pastor and they grew up in a Christian home. BONUS! 

My problems grew when I decided that The Jonas Brothers were the best thing to ever come into my life. They became the center of everything I did. I wrote stories about them, I listened to their music constantly, I had a ton of pictures of them saved on my computer, and my best friend and I had hours of conversation about them on the phone. 

Kevin Jonas, Joe Jonas, Nick Jonas

The thought process I was having was, “these guys are Christians, so it’s okay for me to like them this much”, but this was incredibly flawed.

As I look back, I realized that despite the fact that I was listening to so-called “Christians”, I was walking away from the one person in my life that was important: God. 

I idolized these guys. I get that now. I understand that loving people so much that I DIDN’T EVEN KNOW was just stupid. There was nothing good that could come out of that. 

God made this clear to me about 3 years later. I was reading through the Bible in a year, and all these verses kept popping out of me and tugging at my heart. 

In Exodus it says:

And God spoke all these words, saying, “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. “You shall have no other gods before me. “You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. 

I think we often think these verses mean ACTUAL idols. Like, statues. But what this means is anything or anyone that takes the place of God in our lives. This could be a band, an actor, a movie, a tv show, the internet. Anything that draws us to it instead of opening the Bible when we KNOW That we should be doing devotions. Anything that draws us to it instead of taking us to church.

As I grow older, and the Jonas Brothers take themselves further away from the Lord, I find myself hurting for them. I find myself SORRY for them. They walked away from the ONE THING in their lives that was FIRM. That makes me sad, and I pray that they go back to the faith that they grew up with. They may have all the money in the world, all the girls they want. Everything they want, but not the One thing they need.

The moral of the story is: God is the only God. God is the only one who will save you. He’s the only One that loved you enough to die on the cross for you. 

So anything else that we make “gods” in our lives are not worth it. Sure, they may be cute. Or funny. Or nice. But they are not God. They won’t do anything for you once you are dead. Only God will. 

So today, my challenge to you is to turn from that band (or whatever it is) and go back to the only firm thing in your life. 

  • I hate to say, “I told you so,” but . . . Great post!

  • Amen. That is such an important point about idols not just being physical things that we worship. Anything that takes place of the Lord is an idol! WOW! For me, that could be a lot of things. I need to regularly go to the Lord and pray that the Lord would deal with those things in my being, as He did for you. Good thing that our God is the most wonderful, most sweet, most enjoyable one in the whole universe. So when we turn away from our idols back to Him, it is not like we suffer by giving something up. We actually gain something that is much much better!