Find the Good

I haven’t blogged in MONTHS. Sometimes in order to get back to blogging, something has to happen to make me feel like I need to write about it. Something did happen. And I have to get these thoughts out before they eat at me.

Let me preface this post by saying: over the weekend, I found out that my boyfriend’s brother was killed in a car accident. It’s been some of the hardest days I’ve had in my entire 24 years. I know that I’m very blessed to have so few people in my life pass away, and I don’t take it for granted. 

Matthew was one of the sweetest, happiest, funniest guys I’ve ever known. I got to know him in the 6 months that Lance and I have been dating, and my life is better from knowing Matthew. He always had a big grin to give everyone that came into his presence, and funny faces that no one else in the whole world could ever make! 

Today, I encountered a woman when I was out and about. She was complaining about EVERYTHING. And I would understand if these were horrible, atrocious things. But they were little things that just weren’t important. (Obviously they were important to her, but they weren’t important in the grand scheme of things.)

There are two families in our communities – my boyfriend’s family included – that are grieving the losses of their young sons. I have about zero patience for listening to someone complain about little things like this. 

I think that we can all take a lesson from this situation. DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF. It’s not the important stuff. How about instead of complaining about something you can’t control, remember all GOOD THINGS in your life.

I guess maybe I’m more annoyed by this because Matthew’s passing is so fresh in my mind this week. I can’t help but think of all the things that are way less important than that. I couldn’t care less about road closures, or phone lines being down. I couldn’t care less if I have to wait in a long line at the grocery store, or that I have to get gas when there’s a whole bunch of other people at the gas station. 

Maybe we all need to find the good in our days. Find one thing that happened that we can be HAPPY about, rather than complain about. I think if we did that, we might just make the world a better place. 

So today, I urge you to find the good. Find one good thing that happened and dwell on that. 

My one good thing?

I have a family that supports me in every way, shape and form. Who loves me no matter what, and cares about my well-being. I also have my boyfriend’s family who treats me as if I’m a part of their family. 

Hey, check that out. I found 2 good things. I bet you can, too.

Try it. 

You won’t regret it. I promise.


Today, I urge you to take a lesson from Matthew: Work hard, don’t sweat the small stuff, and never let anyone tell you you can’t do something.