No, it’s not Monday….but you forgive me right? This post has been on my heart for a while now, and I just feel like it has to be said.
A few years ago, the series above came out. They took the world by storm, and just about everyone I knew was reading them. Okay, not everyone! But the good majority of my Facebook news feed was about these books, and the greatness of them. I never really took the time to think much about it, because honestly, I like to boycott books that everyone reads. It usually means they’re incredibly overrated.
And these books are overrated.
Now, what’s going through my News Feed on Facebook? Of course you know. It’s the trailer for the new movie coming out this year. The trailer doesn’t even try to leave a little to the imagination. No, instead, they just show you exactly what’s going to be in the movie.
As a woman that wants nothing more than to love my future husband with her whole heart, the trailer for this movie really hurt me. To think that married friends of mine, or even those engaged or in a relationship are going to watch this movie, or have read the book…it hurts me for their significant other.
Here’s a few things to think about?
- These books – and the movie – are all about sex.
First off, do we want to fill our minds with this? We already have our sinful nature that makes us think about this enough. Do we need to add more of that by reading this, or watching it? The answer is so simple: no!
- Do you want your husband, boyfriend, or fiance to watch porn?
Your answer is no, of course. At least, I hope it is. It better be. So, if you don’t want your man doing this, why would you do it?
- Would you want someone in your daughter’s, sister’s or friend’s life to take advantage of them the way that the guy in this story took advantage of the girl?
(Yes, I am that naive that I don’t know either of their names, and guess what? I’m proud of that.)
From what I can gather from what I’m seeing, the girl character was a virgin before she met Mr. Grey? So, was he taking advantage of her naivety and innocence by taking a sexual interest in her?
I try to think about it as being in the other person’s shoes. Would I want my significant other talking about how hot a girl was that was going to be in a movie that he was going to see? And in that movie, she was going to be naked most of the time? Would you want your other reading a book that was about lust and not “real love”?
My whole thing is: don’t read or watch things that mess with your mind in this way.
There are so many things wrong with it: the movie is full of lust, and lust is a huge sin that God warns about all the time. Last night when reading Romans, God had to let people go because of their depraved minds; they turned to their lustful desires.
As women who want our men to respect us, shouldn’t we be willing to do the same thing for them?
The moral of this post is:
If you wouldn’t want your significant other doing it, why do you think it’s okay for you?