50 Shades of No Way in Heck


No, it’s not Monday….but you forgive me right? This post has been on my heart for a while now, and I just feel like it has to be said. 


A few years ago, the series above came out. They took the world by storm, and just about everyone I knew was reading them. Okay, not everyone! But the good majority of my Facebook news feed was about these books, and the greatness of them. I never really took the time to think much about it, because honestly, I like to boycott books that everyone reads. It usually means they’re incredibly overrated.

And these books are overrated. 

Now, what’s going through my News Feed on Facebook? Of course you know. It’s the trailer for the new movie coming out this year. The trailer doesn’t even try to leave a little to the imagination. No, instead, they just show you exactly what’s going to be in the movie.

As a woman that wants nothing more than to love my future husband with her whole heart, the trailer for this movie really hurt me. To think that married friends of mine, or even those engaged or in a relationship are going to watch this movie, or have read the book…it hurts me for their significant other.

Here’s a few things to think about?

  • These books – and the movie – are all about sex. 
    First off, do we want to fill our minds with this? We already have our sinful nature that makes us think about this enough. Do we need to add more of that by reading this, or watching it? The answer is so simple: no! 
  • Do you want your husband, boyfriend, or fiance to watch porn?
    Your answer is no, of course. At least, I hope it is. It better be. So, if you don’t want your man doing this, why would you do it?
  • Would you want someone in your daughter’s, sister’s or friend’s life to take advantage of them the way that the guy in this story took advantage of the girl? 
    (Yes, I am that naive that I don’t know either of their names, and guess what? I’m proud of that.) 
    From what I can gather from what I’m seeing, the girl character was a virgin before she met Mr. Grey? So, was he taking advantage of her naivety and innocence by taking a sexual interest in her? 

I try to think about it as being in the other person’s shoes. Would I want my significant other talking about how hot a girl was that was going to be in a movie that he was going to see? And in that movie, she was going to be naked most of the time? Would you want your other reading a book that was about lust and not “real love”? 

My whole thing is: don’t read or watch things that mess with your mind in this way. 

There are so many things wrong with it: the movie is full of lust, and lust is a huge sin that God warns about all the time. Last night when reading Romans, God had to let people go because of their depraved minds; they turned to their lustful desires.

As women who want our men to respect us, shouldn’t we be willing to do the same thing for them?

The moral of this post is:  

If you wouldn’t want your significant other doing it, why do you think it’s okay for you? 

  • AmyLuke

    My only interaction with “50 shades of grey” is what happened when I painted my living room. Just sayin.’ (Or was it “greige”? There’s like 500 shades of that!) I’m not trying to sound self-righteous here. I know some would be disappointed that I listened to 80’s hair bands today and would think I’m awful for not listening to hymns instead. Like you, I see the danger in these books/movies. For starters, there is a spirit of pornography in the world and it is seducing and violent. It shreds hearts and marriages. It may start as a magazine or movie, but can end in adultery/addiction. The pain of being the spouse who feels rejected and betrayed because of that evil darkness is life changing. (Ask me how I know!) This is NOTHING to “toy” with. It’s something that draws you into a deep dark pit. We have GOT to guard our eyes and hearts! Images DO NOT leave, words linger. I am mostly irritated by my Christian female friends who would hit their husband with a cast iron pan if he looked at anything pornographic (or a Victoria Secret commercial for that matter), and yet they watch movies like “Magic Mike” and read the “50 Shades” books without any conviction. It’s a slippery slope and it’s an easy CHOICE to just turn the other way, or turn the channel. They read this and have no time to be in the Word. Yes, I just said that. Again, let me say that I am accountable for myself and not judging someone else’s walk. I have to guard my own heart. Philippians 4:8 still applies. “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

  • Amen. So so true.